Tuesday, May 3, 2011

When Your Goals Don’t Work

I’d like to tell you a little bit about how powerful coaching has been for me. Using coaches has been the most powerful catalyst for success and has changed my life.
By hiring professional coaches, I’ve been able to make huge leaps of success in my personal and professional life (I’ve had multiple coaches).
I’ve used a life coach, a business coach, and a product launch coach. I’ve also had a marketing coach and a martial arts coach.
Without coaching, I wouldn’t have experienced the amount of success I’ve had in life. And this is coming from someone who’s always done the rogue, do-it-yourself, “I’ll take charge of the school group project” mentality.
What I realized is that me trying to “go it alone” was one of the silliest things I could do. It’s like intentionally holding yourself back, in some weird attempt to defend your pride.

The reason most people don’t hire a coach or form partnerships

A lot of people pride themselves on being “self-made” and not taking any help from others. They could be down to their last stitch and still refuse any outside assistance. Independence is a proud claim for many people and much of our culture is centered around it.
But here’s where we go wrong: We confuse dependence with interdependence. 
These two things are totally different. Dependence is seeking yourself in others. It means relying on them for approval and allowing others to influence your actions, even if they don’t agree with your sense of what’s right.
But interdependence is something different entirely. Interdependence is the event of independence and cooperation. It’s not seeking yourself in others, but seeking to support others’ natural sense of self.
That’s the power of coaching, and the power of partnership.

Your free coaching session and dream realization blueprint

If you are stuck in some area of your life and would like to start waking up excited, I would love to be your coach. If you need someone to keep you accountable, help you do what you love for a living and give you an occasional kick in the ass when you need it, I would love to be your coach.
If you’re tired of your goals not working, maybe it’s time to try what does work… Coaching.
Now that you know coaching is for you, let’s do a FREE 30 minute coaching session. In our session we’ll work together to create your “dream realization blueprint” — a step by step plan to help you get unstuck and on the path to realizing your dreams.